Frum dating questions
And as someone who still isn’t so comfortable with the idea of being judged by a first meeting, indeed it is a scary concept.
So this still has nothing to do with me being a BT. I’ve noticed that in the shidduch world, or even the dating world, BTs have a disadvantage for multiple reasons. They don’t have an array of frum friends from growing up who can introduce them to their friends or friends of friends, who might be dateable.
No room for questions, no actually asking of questions.
I've met two of the three guys I seriously interacted with so far on Frumster.
It's like me, as a gluten-freegan, having a job in a kosher bread factory. In fact, I'm beginning to wonder if this very blog is getting me down when it comes to the shidduch universe.
Anyone who Googles me will see that I'm quite ever-present on the world wide web.
Don't get me wrong -- there are, as I said, lots of single Jews in Colorado.
It's just being one of those in the frum category that puts you out. I'm trying not to get hung up on being a divorced convert.
They are sort of the only "legit" frum (observant) dating sites out there for folks like me. I don't want to bash any of the guys I've spoken with or met, but I do want to give y'all a little taste of what it's like to be Chaviva in the frum dating world, specifically online, because let's be honest -- Colorado is crawling with attractive, single Jewish guys, but when it comes to hashkafah, there isn't such a match for me.My FFB friends have this resource, and sometimes it has led to relationships and engagements. They don’t have parents who can set them up with people. Not such a big deal in my community, or in the Modern Orthodox world in general, but at the same time, I think there might be something underlying.Ok, my dad once tried to set me up with the one Orthodox guy he knew that was around my age, but it didn’t work out, and that exhausted the reserve of Orthodox guys my parents can set me up with. Part of me wants to marry an FFB, so I can be part of a frum family where I don’t have to be in charge of running the household.The third was LA guy, and that didn't work out for reasons not worth divulging here (yes, I honor and appreciate a bit of a private life! The other two guys I met while out vacationing in Chicago.One of the guys' sisters had recently been married, so I got to be there for some hardcore segula wine.
For example, I once was told that my nose-piercing hurting my chances of a shidduch.